After discussion, it turns out that the main point is that this incident will make me feel that my self-worth is denied and that I am a bad person, and this is what makes the interviewer really sad. Analysis After finding the "problem", the third stage, Analysis, finds out the phone database feasible solutions through analysis. However, at this stage, because the interviewer understands the source of the emotion, he is less likely to indulge in sadness all the time, and his mood is also Much calmer. Going back to the step of "analysis", the purpose of my consultation is to
let the interviewer establish her self-worth, and let her understand that her self-worth comes from the inside rather than the judgment of outsiders. The interviewer asked more deeply about the real reason for the breakup. The interviewer said: "The values of the two people are completely different. At the beginning, they felt new to be together because of the "different". The two sides became impatient and quarreled frequently.” I continued to ask the interviewer: "Do you feel that you are a bad person because you have different opinions from the other person?" The interviewer said, "No, and in retrospect,
many things are actually not right or wrong, but two People do things differently.” I said: "If you find out that the two broke up because of different personalities, and you also said that the personality difference has nothing to do with who is better and who is worse, so today the other party broke up with you, although it was proposed earlier than you, but it does not mean that your value will be lost from now on. to denial." This conclusion was not directly imposed by me on the person who came to talk, but was concluded according to her thinking